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Respect has room for secrets but not for lies.
- Diana Gabaldon

Well, I'm rereading one of my favorite books, Outlander by Diana Gabaldon.  It is, for the most part, brain candy, and then, every so often, like the bubblegum in a blow pop, a gem shows up.  This one, while not outstanding writing, is an idea that I've never heard or seen, but is one so basic that I had to reread it several times. 

One of the things I've learned about myself is that I used to want to know everything about someone.  If I let you in to my world, I wanted to be your complete confidant, the person to whom you told everything.  Now, I didn't necessarily tell you everything about me; actually there was no way I was telling you everything, you know, my walls. 

I've come to understand that secrets are ok.  That no one needs to know everything about anyone.  (say that sentence three times fast) That as long as there's respect, secrets are expected and accepted. 

But it took brain candy to put it into words.
Go figure.